What to expect from Counselling

  • Try to go into counselling with realistic expectations. It’s not a quick fix solution, it's a process.

  • For counselling to be effective, it requires commitment and effort by both of us. It also means making sometimes difficult changes in your behaviour or thinking patterns.

  • Be honest and open. Not only about the issues you’re bringing and how you feel, but also about whether the sessions are working for you. Counselling isn't 'done to you' but is about you and I working together

  • You’re the expert on yourself. I won’t offer you solutions, but will help you to understand yourself better. 

  • Spend some time thinking about how to describe your feelings. Doing this can help you focus on particular issues during the session. It’s important to be yourself and use language that you feel comfortable with. This includes swearing if that helps you to express how you’re feeling and get your point across.

  • For many people crying and getting upset is a natural and frequent part of the counselling process. Please try not to worry or feel embarrassed that this may happen, you will be given the time and space you need until you feel ready to continue.


  • Spend time between sessions reflecting on what we’ve talked about. Doing this on a daily basis will help you to feel more comfortable talking about your feelings. 

  • Be patient with yourself. Effective counselling takes time and effort. The end result is personal growth and self awareness. Leading to a more satisfying and meaningful life.